On Conversation, Community and The Platinum Rule
Had a different theme in mind for today, but an event last evening inspired another path. Went to a fundraiser for the iACT (Interfaith Action of Central Texas). Their mission is to promote interfaith dialogue and encourage the conversion of faith into action through good works in the community. At a reception before the program, I mingled with Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Christians, Buddhists, et.al. All colors, gay and straight. All there to share our tremendous commonality. And working toward a better understanding of our differences through conversation and connection. The setting was conducive to lots of handshakes, hugs and smiles. Friend building assisted by food and music. The best essence of community building.
The Mosey principles of "Slow Down, Pay Attention and Be Informed" lead to and depend on constructive, civil conversation. Not the "talking at" and "talking through" that typify too much of our public discourse. And too often is modeled at home. Our dependence on our electronic devices is greatly impacting our ability to converse offline. And, we're especially noting this in many young people who are losing or never gaining interpersonal skills. The Mosey Project seeks to encourage a better informed, civically engaged populace. Constructive conversation is a key to that success.
Ironically, it's two pieces of furniture, yes, inanimate objects that play central roles in these conversation promotion efforts. A Red Bench and a Turquoise Table. The iACT's "Red Bench" program is a periodic casual dinner gathering, hosted by various faith-based organizations to encourage interfaith dialogue among diverse participants. There are different themes such as fear, faith, happiness, compassion, etc. that prompt discussions led by a table host. Great ways to learn about others and yourself. The "Turquoise Table," inspired by Austinite Kristin Kessler Schell, simply encourages families, businesses and other organizations to prominently display a turquoise-painted picnic table or chairs outdoors as a welcoming magnet for visitors and a place for conversation. Yes, just as simple as that. Because we often need that friendly invitation to slow down, relax and be real for a few minutes. Brilliant!
When in Orlando for a National Speaker's Assn. conference, I heard author Tony Alessandra introduce "The Platinum Rule." We know the "Golden Rule," "do unto others as YOU would like done unto YOU." Well, the "Platinum Rule" is, "do unto others as THEY would like done unto THEM." We can't know what others (people, cultures, countries, etc.) would like without knowing them. And we can't know that without conversations, some research and thoughtful consideration. We can think about many problematic encounters in politics, international relations and those with our own neighbors where the "Platinum Rule" would have been helpful. It frequently starts with good conversation. That starts with you and me.